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The emotional relationship of attachment in a schizoid

Human beings, before 5 years, form an affective relationship of attachment with our mother. The various nuances that converge in this learning, both from the mother and  the baby,  determine the style of this relationship. After establishing  this attachment relationship, with the new style, specific to every child, it is established, printed, set...,and this will be our style of attachment with other human beings, for the rest of our life. However.... ....  schizoids are characterised, precisely, by not forming that affective relationship of attachment with the mother. Later will repeat this guideline with all the people  which are related. This is the schizoid detachment

The dog can be considered as a model of rooting, attachment, and link. He ranks the last place in the social scale of their herd, but he feels fully adjusted and happy. He establishes happily strong ties with “his” territory and with the members of “his” herd, although they are human beings. Fully integrated, he defends his territory and defends to hers which feels very close. This model can serve as a referent to confirm that the schizoid is

 exactly the opposite

The schizoid goes through life without establishing ties with nothing or with nobody, without forming links. Not even looks happy as a member of his family.

==” I live in the midst of a family, among the best and most loving people, feeling more strange that a stranger”- wrote Kafka.

==”I feel uprooted”- explained spontaneously a schizoid.

Maladjusted, unhappy with his fate, without joy, without feeling part of nothing, nor joined to nobody. In milder cases he can have moderate religious sentiments, patriotic, family... In more severe cases can be unable to undertake any life project, considering that the life is absurd and that she does not make sense.

Do not ask to a schizoid by his uncle or cousin favorite, by the hero who he loves  ...: those words, vehicles of strong emotions of attachment, do not make sense to him ...

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