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Schizoid life
A day in the life of a schizoid
personality
1-Maladjusted
Schizoids are a personality
type who are not capable of being sociable – participating in
neighbourhood meetings,
religious gatherings, political parties,
multi-course meals with colleagues, etc.
We have difficulty fitting into society,
both in the workplace and in relationships.
But,
no matter how we live our lives, there will always be instances where we are
forced to be sociable.
Though
we try to fit in, we always feel under pressure, constrained, and maladjusted.
2
- Can I fall in love?
No, not in the same way that other people do. We feel tenderness towards a partner, rather than love.
Thus the
relationship will be tender, rather than passionate. As schizoids, we can have a partner.
This may reward us with feelings of satisfaction, self
esteem, and a degree of hope.. O
should not expect us to be passionate, to lose our heads, to
be affectionate, to express our love physically or in words.
Nevertheless,
although this kind of behaviour does not come naturally to us, it is not
impossible. In fact some
of us are have stable marriages.
3-Ganging-up
If you are an accepted part of a ‘group’
at work, you
will not be ganged-up against since the group will protect you.
If you know to defend yourself, to
display anger, or if you're capable of doing harm to others, they will think
twice before harassing you.
If not, and you're totally isolated and non-aggressive,
you may be picked on by certain people.
The schizoid is a good target for bullies to gang up against. On two
occasions, I have personally been the subject of bullying
by colleagues.
However, since they were only colleagues, and not in a position of authority
over me,
they could
do me little harm.
4-Conversation
Some boys are sitting in the street on a Saturday night, talking. Their
talk is harmless, and insubstantial. In fact,
it wouldn’t
matter whether they talked or not, just being together makes them feel good. The important thing here,
is being
together. The schizoid does not enjoy company, since company does not make him
feel good.
If the conversation is interesting, he may enjoy it purely for the
conversation and intellectual pleasure
it brings.
However, if the conversation is inane and inconsequential, boredom would
ensue, and there would be no reason to remain.
Sometimes, schizoids appear incommunicative
and, perhaps, even boring. Their inability to communicate does not lie
in their lack
of knowledge, but in their inability to experience the positive emotions of
empathy and pleasure.
5-The schizoid sense of humour
You are in the company of colleagues and/or friends. Everyone appears to be jovial, and in the mood for
laughter.
They exchange amusing stories, and
everyone laughs. The more they laugh, the more absurd
and lewd the stories become.
There are shrieks of laughter. You,
in the meantime, are bewildered by it all – you find nothing amusing.
However, if you don’t join in, they may rebuke you, or even make fun of
you. In addition, you have
the
unpleasant impression of being out of place ... ---- If you decide to join in and
laugh like the rest,
your laughter will sound false and you will
feel uncomfortable. We seldom express our sense of humour
in the form of laughter, but rather in a
more sophisticated manner - through irony,
sarcasm,
and clever
jokes – and never in obscenities.
6- A schizoid wedding
The day I got married, I went to
the local Catholic church. The bride was dressed in a plain, smart suit.
There were only
4 guests present: one of my sisters, my sister’s
boyfriend, a friend of mine, and a friend of my bride.
This little wedding party made their way
towards the altar. A photographer arrived – the same one who hears
of
weddings and just turns up. I approached him and asked him to leave. The priest
finally arrived and the 7 of us
stood
before the altar to begin the ceremony. There was no music, no flowers, no lights, no parades, no
audience,
no guests, no religious
mass.
The priest exchanged some words
with us regarding marriage. The ritual speech was made, and the ceremony ended.
The entire procedure lasted only 10 minutes.
We signed the religious and civil agreements in the sacristy – where there was
a government employee,
We all left, and looked for a place to
have lunch together. This all was in the
I found that wedding bearable. A conventional
wedding would have been far too embarrassing. I have to add that, my parents
who
lived in the same town, did not attend. Today, after 30 years, that marriage still
holds and, within our capability, we are happy.
7- The need to
belong
To some extent, the
success of humans as a species lies in the fact that they are sociable. Today, just
the feeling
of belonging to a group, makes us feel
good. For most people, being part of
a group occurs spontaneously,
so they never feel what it’s like to be excluded. However, the schizoid, lives
outside the group and even outside the
family
– either from choice or because he does not fit in. Yet,
inside him, there is a deep yearning to belong,
to be part of
something, to be special to someone. However, since the schizoid never fully integrates
into society,
this feeling will remain
with him forever.
8- If you tell
people that you are schizoid...
... they probably will not understand you. Some may suspect that you are
schizophrenic, or that you are crazy.
They may create a stigma which you will find hard to
shake. Thus it is adviseable not to even mention the
word, schizoid.
And, if you feel compelled to
admit to something, then rather say you are shy or an introvert. [You may even
say you are bipolar .
But, whatever you do, avoid saying you are
maniac-depressive because this is sure to lead to problems]
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24 , 2011
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